[Video] Thoughts after 7-day circling retreat at MAPLE

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  1. Metaphors for some recent belief updates | Julia's BlogJanuary 5, 2020 at 2:49 PM

    […] came up for me as I was walking today. These are illustrations of some belief updates I made during the circling retreat last […]

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